A woman's point of view

This is one woman's point of view on just about everything. There are a lot of things that go on in this world and here is my take on them.

Monday, January 30, 2006

This is the first.

Well, I think everyone needs an outlet. Life is not as easy as people pretend it is. I have always been one of those people that vent on paper. I am not very outspoken, but sometimes you just have to let it out. Some of the things I write here may upset people, but I don't really care. I am not on this earth to please people, something I just figured out pretty recently. Society has all of these unspoken rules of how everyone should act, look, and be. You can't be honest because someone might get their feelings hurt, so we teach our children to lie. Women have to look perfect, like a Victoria's Secret model, so we teach our children that they are not good enough the way they are. You can never be yourself, you must change who you are at any given time to please whoever happens to come along, so our children grow up with no sense of self. We are raising a society of people with no self esteem, who lie, and have no idea who they are. And we wonder why the world is going to hell. And now in the days of feminism, do they even have a sense of family anymore? There is a reason women are women, and men are men. Why are we trying to combine the two? I agree that If a woman wants a career she should have one, and that she should not be treated any different in the workplace than a man. But there is more to having a family than just popping out babies. Women need to take back control of the family, We are the caregivers, the ones teach our children good morals and values. Women have always been the backbone of the family, what holds it together and keeps it strong. How can we honestly say we are raising our children when we are not there? We should not be judged based on the material possesions we hold. Sure, every parent wants to give their kids all of the things that they never had as a child, why not start with the basics. I grew up in a single mother home with three other sisters. My mother worked her tail off just to make ends meet. We never had much. The one thing I really wanted and never got was time with my mother. I do not want that for my kids. What kids need is time, one on one time with mom. They need to feel important to their family, to their parents, to their moms. We are so busy trying to make a name for ourselves in the workplace, trying to keep up with the Jonses, trying to establish our worth by the number of possessions we aquire, that the most important things are forgotten. Possessions can not take the place of family, do we really think we are showing our kids real love by giving them stuff? Oh sure I want my kids to have the things they want , a cool bike,video games and the newest gadgets. But the fact is, kids need the things we give the least, love, attention, and time. I am fighting the battle between what society says and what I believe when it comes to raising my family, and the sad part is, I am losing. I have a horror story for you, now is not the time to tell it but soon I will. Well if you got this far, thank you. I will continue to post, my thoughts and tell you some true stories about my family.